Yesterday one of my kids was “sweeping.” That was her assignment. It looked more like she was using the broom to lasso dust that was too far away… jabbing and jerking, but definitely not sweeping.
After she was “done,” my wife commented to me that it looked like she hadn’t even swept. Except that she spent a solid 15 minutes in that area, sweeping.
The act of sweeping – the mechanics of moving your arms a certain way while holding a broom – does not equal the job of sweeping – having swept an area to the point where there is no dirt or dust.
This reminds me of my job search. I was in the act of a job search, doing “things” that job seekers should do. But my heart wasn’t in in, and I was really just superficially going through the mechanics of a job search. I did not really do “a job search.”
What that led to was frustration and depression. What frustration and depression led to was no results in my job search, and further frustration and depression.
Why was my job search mostly heartlessly mechanical?
Perhaps because I got to the point where I thought I wouldn’t really get a real job.
Or because I didn’t think I was good enough, or deserved, a real job.
Or, like many of you that I’ve talked to, you are not excited about getting a job that you’ll only have for a few years, only to do this all over again.
That, I think, was the root problem: I wasn’t excited about the results, or I didn’t believe in the results.
Is that the case for you?
Let me encourage you to ask, honestly, if you are doing a real job search, or a mechanical, fake job search. If yours is not real, then WHY? What is the root issue, and what can change, so that you can do more than just go through the motions?