Yesterday I shared a post I wrote about my first networking meetings as a job seeker.
It made me think about my biggest mistake trying to “network.”
For a long time I didn’t get much out of the meetings, until I changed something.
My mistake wasn’t that I didn’t have business cards, or that my 30 second commercial was as bad as everyone else’s.
My mistake was that I went to those meetings with the wrong purpose in mind.
I was hoping to get filled, and get questions answered.
Week after week I went, hoping to get. And I didn’t get as much as I needed, and I felt unfulfilled.
Then, I realized I should go to those meetings and GIVE. I listened for opportunities to give leads, or introduce contacts. I looked for chances to help, and strengthen, and encourage.
When I switched from hoping to GET to wanting to GIVE, the meetings, and the results, completely changed.
I finally looked forward to going to those meetings.
I made more meaningful contacts (since I was a giver).
I always left feeling fulfilled.
And I started to get more. I got leads, and ideas, and encouragement, in a way that I wasn’t getting before.
I don’t know what your mistakes are right now, but if you are networking to GET, I encourage you to take a few months and concentrate on GIVING, and see how that goes… see what’s different.
For me, it made all the difference!
I believe networking is a full contact sport. And if you want to play, you MUST GIVE. And it does not take long to spot the takers…..
Networking is a lifelong journey – enjoy it!
Spot on!!!!
Jason, how true and relevant is this. I’m sharing this with a local networking group that subscribes to the philosophy of giving vs. getting! Great post. Susan
Jason,
It is all about giving and sharing when you network. I just finished a series on balancing, cultivating, sharing and strategically networking that I would like to share.
It can be found at https://www.careercoachaustintexas.com/?p=420
Thanks for writing this blog.
Marc Miller