I’ve been really big on coaches since I really started to learn about them last year. As a job seeker we were told to “get a coach, not your spouse!” It was during the time when I was just figuring out the job search and career management thing, and as I learned more about coaches I kind of came up with my own thing – you can read the three things that a coach must have in order to really be effective here.
I partner with coaches, which is really quite fun. I’m not sure if it’s their personality, or that they are just “in the zone,” but usually when we are on the phone talking about their business and JibberJobber they’ll start coaching me. This happens about 30 minutes into the call and I’m not sure if they realize they do it, but it really is interesting to have these impromptu coaching sessions.
I announced that I had engaged in a coaching relationship about a month ago. And today I want to give an update:
- I do not look forward to my coaching sessions.
- We have weekly sessions. I have not had a week off since we started.
- I have homework.
- I’m supposed to recap our sessions… AND write an e-mail before our session recapping my week.
- He asks really simple questions that, deep down inside, I already know the answer to.
- He asks some questions that I know I should be asking myself but have been purposefully ignoring.
- He tries really hard to not give me the answers, rather, pulls them out of me in a sometimes painful dialog.
- While our discussions are generally low-key, I know that I’m not going to “get away” with anything.
Our coaching relationship is built on trust and mutual respect. I have immense respect for him as a leader and manager. He trusts that I’m being honest with him.
Probably more important, he trusts that I’m being honest with myself.
Has it been beneficial? No doubt.
Is it fun? …. it’s rewarding, but it’s a growth process, so it’s more painful than fun.
Do we go over common-sense stuff? Yes… I have a business degree, an MBA, and years of management and strategic experience. But I find myself not being able to see the trees through the forest (or however that goes). So I need to be grounded regularly.
What’s the most beneficial thing I get out of our coaching relationship? I can’t decide between (a) having a smarter, wiser person to help me solve current problems with or (b) the regular accountability (I’m not one that “needs” accountability, but this takes it to another level).
Do I really hate my coach? No, of course not. But this is something that makes me grow, and growing is hard an uncomfortable. I’m fortunate to have a coach that is helping me through, even pushing me through this period in my life and business.
Who is my coach? I’m going to “out” him this week – stay tuned.
Are you a coach? Did you know your clients go through this? Have you had a coach? Does this ring true?