I don’t consider myself emotionally unhealthy. In fact, with the exception of dealing with a big car accident when I was 17, I feel like I’ve either been in control of my life, or very comfortable with what has happening. I don’t think that I have suffered from anxiety or depression or similar things, although I’m close to people who have and know that it’s real and serious.
I have a high locus of control, which means I believe I have a significant impact on things that happen to me (career success, family success, etc.).
But, when I started my job search there were two major things going on.
First, I was managing and coordinating all of the logistics that go into a job search. There are a ton… from getting a resume together to getting it out, prepping for interviews, dressing right, networking, researching, etc. These are all mechanical things, things that you can get coached on from the “do these 10 things and you’ll land a job” lists.
In fact, they are so mechanical that you can easily define what needs to be done, how to do it, and figure out what tweaks are required because of your needs. You can come up with checklists and plans, and it’s all good… or it would seem to be all good.
This is all good news for someone with a high locus of control. But even when you have a high locus of control, depression clouds everything.
The second thing that was happening all of the emotional stuff happening. You see, I was on top of the world… I was the general manager of my company, on the board of directors, accomplished in school and feeling pretty good about myself.
Depression Clouds Everything Especially with Life Hitting Us from Every Which Way
And then I became a “job seeker.” This is the person that won’t get a call back, or an e-mail reply, from anyone. The job seeker is the person who tries to get interviews so that you can see just how great they are, and what value they’ll bring to your company… but they get nowhere. The job seeker is the guy who lost an income, but still has bills to pay.
When I first lost my job I remember reading an article on MSN – it was about a guy in Korea that lost his job, went to the zoo, entered an animal’s area, and climbed a tree and wouldn’t come down. Can you imagine what it takes for a professional to end up in a tree at the zoo, and then on international news? “At least,” I thought, “I’m not there.”
But day after day, the rejection, the self-doubt, all the bad stuff that happens when your world is turned upside down, the emotions where clouding things. Judgment was clouded because I was desperate. And, depression clouds everything
Performance was clouded because I was scared. I certainly wasn’t used to dealing with these emotions, especially week after week.
It was also somewhat depressing to go to network meetings with professionals in transition who were going through similar things. I was pretty amazed that I met people who were in the same laid-off boat I was, who were much more accomplished than me. Would this never end?? I didn’t want to be in this situation regularly!
Depression Clouds Everything Even How We Would Normally Think
I dealt with it (by ignoring it). But I knew that others weren’t dealing with it there.
A few weeks ago I was at lunch with a good friend that I met during my job search. He had a very similar story to mine, a fast-paced career, good money, big titles and responsibility, and then he got cut out because of lame corporate politics. We got on the subject of emotions, and I said that this was the most surprising aspect of a job search for me, and I asked him if he dealt with negative emotions.
Since I had met him I knew him to be composed… I didn’t imagine that he dealt with them.
His reply was shocking: “Jason, it got to the point where I asked myself if it was the wrists or the neck.”
I was speechless. This was a big part of why I needed to write this Depression Clouds Everything post.
For those of you who haven’t been jobless yet, thinking that you give 110% to your company and they’ll take care of you, mark my words, the emotional aspect of a job search, no matter what your locus of control is, may be the most surprising, derailing thing you have to deal with in your job search.
The Enemy of Depression Is Hope
I’m updating this post in 2022. I want to preserve much of the original post since it resonated so much with people, and because it is a snapshot of where I was in my growth journey.
Years after I wrote this Depression Clouds Everything post I met Dick Bolles in person. I was fortunate to get some time with him at a restaurant. It was, I can say, life changing. Please read this post about that lunch, and why it impacted me.
I’m not going to say that understanding options, or having more hope, will eliminate depression. That would be too simplistic. But I know that having options, having something to hope for, can change how you feel and think. I went through that. Options found me, my hope went from zero to a hundred, and depression melted away. You can’t force this on anyone, or yourself, but it’s an awesome dynamic that might help.
I’m not sure if I’ll get comments on this post, Depression Clouds Everything, or not… but it is a serious issue. If you have anything you feel comfortable sharing, leave a comment.
Update: After 6 months of interviewing, a lot of interviews and second interviews, I finally landed a job offer with a great company. This has been the longest time I have been out of work. All I can say to the rest of you who are still unemployed, just keep on going and don’t give up. I really thought I would never get a job but I did. Along the way, I networked, but found my job posted on a website. My advice would be to get out and meet with people. I do volunteer work, and also took a temporary position just to get me out of my house so I could meet with people. You must keep moving. I’ve experienced all of the emotions and doubted my own abilities. I think the worst thing is to be isolated. I wish everyone all the best and good luck on your job search. By the way, I kept a list of all the companies I applied to and it was over 50 companies.
There is another avenue that I used to cawl back to being me while being unemployed that just came to me while reading all of the heart felt comments…
http://www.flylady.net
It’s much more than a splashy / perky way to clean your house…
It is rooted in the practice of getting out of bed… get moving… get dressed… clean your sink…
I know it sounds corny to read… but waking up in the morning to a clean sink and being able to get through breakfast with a clutter free environment helped me focus on the daily grind and fear and rejection and ‘stuff’ that came with trying to make progress while feeling that my world was coming to an end.
I’m a realtor and was working as a builder representative in a new homes development. Sales were just getting better; I’d sold three homes in three weeks and had gotten a lot hold that I was getting ready to convert to a contract, when my boss came in on April 17th and “let me go”. He’d already hired someone to take my place, said it had come from the company president, not him, and he was just the messenger. The excuse was that they had thought more homes should have sold (I had sold ALL the new homes but TWO, btw!). The President decided to revamp the whole company apparently and put younger people in; I was fired and another resigned. When asked if I wanted to resign, I said NO, I’m not quitting. So, anyway, here I am, a month later, wondering what is next? I’ve put applications out like crazy, signed up with a headhunter, and a temp agency, but nothing so far! I am single, no second income. The depression is getting to me; I feel paralyzed and I feel like hiding, which I know is not good. I have to force myself to do things: get up, dress, hair and make-up etc., make the bed and keep the house neat and get with the program by researching jobs, etc. I’m trying to find an administrative position now because the housing market is so poor. I have 21 years experience, but I am 58 years old! I am so hoping someone will give me a chance to prove myself! Otherwise, I may be on the street in a few weeks! I am depressed and frightened! I need a steady income, so I’m not looking for a sales job at this time; I need the security of a steady paycheck! Thanks so much for this topic and thank you for letting me vent.
Hang in there Linda – I know exactly how you feel. I am single and in a similar situation only I have been unemployed since January – keep sending out resumes and doing what you are doing. Also you need to let friends help you if they can – stay strong.
Thank you, Judy. How are you living from day to day, paying bills, etc.? Keeping a roof over your head?
Linda – I live in a house in lieu of child support so I don’t have rent – I have picked up bits of work (house cleaning and organizing for friends) here and there, my mother helped me with a few months of car payments, I have used up all the food in my pantry and a couple friends help with milk, bread etc., I only drive my car to job interviews and my debt mounts every day (utilitlites etc.). I pay what I can to keep them on. I get up every morning, do job searches, send out resumes and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
On the negative side – I grit my teeth so much my mouth aches all the time – I am sure it is from stress. I have had trouble making myself exercise everyday but over the past few days I am have been walking at least 40 minutes. I miss having cable tv and good shampoo. I miss the luxury of buying a magazine.
If you want to connect – scroll up to my March 17th comment and visit my blog – there is a link.
Thanks, Judy…and I am sorry about your situation. I hope you get that great job offer soon!
I’m so glad you have a mom and friends to help you some. I will go to the link in your post later today; I have got to keep myself moving forward and I have some things I need to do.
TO NANCY B – That was a great post – and the real real of what we must do while unemployed. Getting rid of clutter is very important. I t clears the mind – as you know.
TO JUDY-
Great comment – except missing magazines and good shampoo- learn to love the frugal lifestyle – while unemployed. That helps me.
When I was unemployed, I went to Social Services and got Food Stamps and Medicaid Health Insurance. Medicaid covers everything. Just make sure you bring proof of last unemployment document.
As for debt – look for offers of Balance transfers to low rates and some are 0 percent. Learn how to use these balance tranfers to your advantage. But once you do a balance transfer, you can NEVEr use that card till balance paid in full.
TO JUDY
As I did myself, I highly suggest going to Social Services and apply for Food Stamps and Medicaid and General Assistance.
To LINDA –
The above-reply was meant for you.
I have been inthat paralized stage before. YOU DID FILE FOR UNEMPLOYMENT. Your reason for being terminated would be “LAID-OFF” – You get unemployment for 26 weeks. If you have not filed – do that first. That is your income while seeking work. Can’t get Social Services benefits when collecting unemployment – Unemployment is more money.
To Linda –
Additionally, with unemployment, get a part-time job. I did telemarketing p/t. They are always hiring.
Having the part time job puts structure in your life and the money makes you feel more in control.
AND, IF YOU HAVE CC DEBT, look for balance tranfers offers to lower rates. They come from your present companies, sometimes with the bill, and somtimes separately.
Thank you for the kind words ‘unlucky.’ How did you work through your paralized stage? For me it was to get a second job as soon as i thought my day job was at risk. While it got me through that time of turmoil, there are still times when I battle the fear of going through another cycle of unemployment alone… even though I am not alone… even though my rational side knows I could get a consulting job tomorrow if I ‘had to.’
For me, now, it is about learning to not become paralyzed again by the ‘maybes.’
Thanks, Unlucky. Yes, I am getting unemployment right now; it took a month for it to start, but I’m grateful for it. In my state, I would have to report it if I took a part time position, which would basically cut out the unemployment and I wouldn’t make as much money part-time as the weekly unemployment is. Unlucky, are you working now?
Judy, I went to your blog site….very nice. How are things with you?
Things I am grateful for: By God’s grace, I have enough money for June’s rent! So far I’ve not had to go hungry! I’ve switched to a more vegetarian diet and I’ve found that brown rice, beans, and potatoes and vegetables and fruit can be cheap and versatile, as well as, healthier. I can spend as little as $30 and eat well for a long time. I’m grateful for family but also grateful that I’ve not had to borrow from them…yet.
I’m really trying to believe that this is only temporary and ‘this too shall pass’.
Wow, and I thought this happens only to me. Yes, intellectually I knew better, but emotionally it was hard to see. My depression didn’t stem from being let go and I have actually had interviews. My depression comes from going through the process of multiple interviews and, after being asked for salary information up front, being offered positions that want 15 years of experience, training, and knowledge, at an entry level salary. Why waste my time and yours? Why drag the process out and after asking for my compensation history and minimum requirements offer the position at $10K – $20K less? I understand that it’s an employers market to a certain degree, but that doesn’t mean I can afford that salary cut. I’m still reeling from the effects of filing bankruptcy the last time I was out of work 2 years ago.
No, my depression doesn’t stem from being let go. It stems form what else do I have to let go of, what else do I have to lose before this turns around? And the frustration I feel for not marrying someone with earning potential just adds to my depression I feel like a shit for thinking that way, but I’m angry that my husband cannot support his family and that I have become the major wage earner. It’s stress i don’t want or need.
First of all, to the above poster: Don’t do it. Get help wherever you can, call the Suicide Hotline, whatever you have to do. Think of your family, friends….reach out! Don’t let this beat you! BELIEVE that this will turn around!
TO NANCY B-
How I got through my paralized phase of unemployment.
I went to my Primary Doctor and got help- and I walked and ran whenever I could. I had been an advid runner for 20 years. Some days I just could not take it anymore and rented fun movies and stayed in movie land for the day, all day.
TO LINDA:
The point of getting a part-tinme job while collecting unemployment is 2-fold:
(1) It stretches the unemployment banefits. You get a to keep a certain amount of the money and the rest gets banked back into unemployment. EX” Benefits are $250/week. The p/t job pays $100/wk. Yu get an allowable amount to keep, such as $50 of the $100, then they deduct the $50 from $250 and the end result is that $50 gets banked back into unemployment for you. It streched your benefits.
I URGE you to get the booklet at the office and read your Notice of Beneifts and ask Unemployment specifically if you need to verify your understanding.
IF you receive $250 and make $300/week p/t, if lose job (1) you re-file for the Beneifts to continue- and (2) working builds your Unemployment Bank by deduction (3) working gives you structure.
TO EVERYONE – make sure you understand your Unemployment Beneifts to make the best use of them if you get any work at all while job searching.
TO CYNTHIA-
I went through everything you stated. AND, I was single with no husband ever. SO , get some exercise in, walking is easy. It helps clear the mind and with stress. If it gets so bad you are snapping, go to your Doctor.
TO THE THOUGHTS of SUICIDE – GO TO YOUR DOCTOR ASAP- sounds like you need help for depression – that is why the thoughts.
TO LINDA:
No, I am UNABLE to work anymore. I had a major burnout from all the ups and downs and unemployment times of my Paralegal career of 10 year. Enough said.
TO ANYONE – Analyze this:
Experienced Paralegal hired for in-house counsel position in August. 6 weeks into job, she gets CRYPTIC talk from a boss RE: this company is about relationships. 60 days into job, Paralegal signed up for Health benefits. In December, Paralegal gets a $1,200 x-mas bonus. In January, Paralegal is given the axe with a 4 week Severance Agreement and package, plus 1 week vacation pay.
WHAT the hey happened????
Disregard the above- post. It serves no healthy purpose. It is spilt milk.
I see it is as more than just spilt milk… it is one of the frustrations that add to the challenge of post – job recovery. Someone, somewhere didn’t feel that you were building positive relationships.
Were they bitter that you pointed out thier failings? Did they feel slighted that you didn’t pay enough attention to them? or that you didn’t back thier ideas?
There could be lots of reasons for cryptic discussions that lead to a sudden termination… I have had the displeasure of letting people go over the holidays… it is not fun for anyone.
I have also had the corporate view of ‘guidelines’ given to managers about what they can and can not say to an employee that is about to be terminated. It is sad that boundries are so strict and both sides are left with gaping wounds to heal.
For me… I have gotten through the tough times by enjoying the little things… I really enjoy the http://www.flylady.net process and the freedom from clutter that my house now gives me.
It sounds like a little thing, but it has helped keep me moving in a forward direction.
& using JibberJobber has helped me to keep track of the details of all my connections that other applications (facebook, linkedin) can not.
My husband is the real expert on job search… having had 11 different jobs in 2004 (when we first moved here to Seattle)… and he says that reading job descriptions and visualizing all of the positive things that he learns about the company when he does the research before applying gets him through his ‘bad days.’
I hope that you are able to move through this to build new relationships in your new positions.
Thanks for your input, Unlucky; I appreciate it.
It is puzzling (for me) as to ‘why’ in your situation and also in mine. If an employee is producing consistently, as I was, and, apparently, as you were, it doesn’t make sense, but sometimes there is a personality conflict or the boss just doesn’t like your look or whatever. The president of the company told me I didn’t talk enough. I didn’t around him because I couldn’t get a word in edgewise…he would come in, shout orders and questions, etc. I feel that I was ‘let go’ because the president wanted to move the company in a new direction, but he basically decided to put young, attractive people in the key positions, ones who have no experience in new home sales. My direct boss told me I was the hardest working agent he had, but, HE was ‘let go’ two weeks after me. But, whatever the reason, it is what it is. Nowhere to go but forward. I appreciate your suggestion of walking/running, something I need to do more of.
My problem right now is just trying to remain focused. My mind gets muddled and caught up in inconsequential things and I tend to lose my sense of direction. Even after six weeks of being unemployed! Anyone else experiencing this? Is it just part of depression? I would say I’m still somewhat depressed although not as bad as in the beginning. It’s still kind of there in the background.
Ooh, can I join the party? I feel as if I shuffle around under a 100-pound backpack. When I stagger to the computer, I flip listlessly through the job sites. I hit the “save this job” button, but I can’t muster the energy to answer them with an upbeat and positive cover letter. Who cares if I do it today or next week? I won’t hear back anyway.
I know I’m depressed. I have a medical condition with a strong correlation to depression and suicide, and the medicine aggravates it. Antidepressants help a little, but not enough to make me chipper and self-confident.
So I wonder: if I were not depressed, would I have been able to find the “right” job, or would I have performed better and kept the jobs I had?
Peter Kramer wrote “Against Depression.” One chapter resounds with me still, the story of a chronically depressed woman who drifted from job to job for which she was overqualified. The poor quality of her life exacerbated her depression and Kramer predicted that the problem would spiral. No, there was not a happy ending. Kramer wrote about how her depression suppressed her brain function. She might decline like that all her days.
In Kramer’s own words “Depression is associated with brain disorganization and nerve-cell atrophy. Depression appears to be progressive — the longer the episode, the greater the anatomical disorder.” (https://www.nytimes.com/2005/04/17/magazine/17DEPRESSION.html)
With a disorganized brain and atrophied nerves, I do not trust myself to make a good job decision. (I have jumped feet-first into three jobs lately and regretted them.)
That said, I am grateful for four things:
1) I get my antidepressants for $4 at Wal-Mart
2) I found this blog so I can unload my feelings
3) my Al-Anon group is very helpful
4) I am not wearing body armor in Iraq
Thanks for letting me share
Hi Katherine,
I agree about the ‘save job option’ it is quite a trap to fall in… no one knows it’s there, but me, and when I looked at it and it’s long it’s more of a reason to beat myself up. It was definitely a huge hurdle during my last job search.
My husband came up with a really great checklist and everyday he walks through the steps to be sure that he doesn’t miss a single search engine and then catches all of the job boards where he has saved jobs.
He is a carpenter and finds many of his posts on Craig’s list now… if he doesn’t act the first day it’s usually gone when he goes back through his saved jobs bookmarks… so he started being more methodical.
Not that I can get him to use JibberJobber… but his pile of legal pads and notebooks and post it’s with company names is a different post.
I hope you find a rhythm that helps quiet your pace and helps you focus.
You know what I’m finding most depressing (and annoying) about my job search? The great listings that turn out to be lead generators for MLM or “work at home” businesses. Craig’s List used to be a great place to find hidden jobs, now it’s more of a listing for MLM opportunities. I think that’s when I get most depressed, after finding a great job listing, getting a response only to find out they want me to spend money I don’t have to make them money.
Every job board has them, but at least the ones on Monster and CareerBuilder are more obvious. Just this morning I found five new listings on Craig’s List that I got excited about — every one of them turned out to be for the same opportunity!
Does anyone have any suggestions for a job boards for administrative work — I’ve ben an EA for over 5 years and without my degree it seems I’m stuck in that role, especially withthe salary considerations I ihave.
I feel better already.
Cynthia, on one of my rare networking forays I went to a CraigsList meeting. They told me they know about the spamming problem and are trying to fight it, especially by limiting the HTML that posters can use. I fight it, too, by flagging any posts that come up more than once in 48 hours, per CraigsList guidelines. I do see a small improvement. I encourage you to do the same thing.
Cynthia, what metro area are you looking in? BTW I have learned that there is federal and state money earmarked to send the unemployed back for more training if it is related to their past field. In NJ if you are 30 credits or fewer short of your AA or BA you can attend classes for free. Check with your unemployment office for more info (even if you are not receiving unemployment benefits). I hope this helps.
Also, I once worked at a college career office. A lot of companies posted administrative jobs with the college. Depending on the school, you might be able to look there.
Nancy B., thanks for the kick in the pants.
Katharine
Katharine: Thanks for the advice, I’ll try it. I’m looking in the DFW area of Texas.
Some good news: I just received a random call from a headhunter and am off to an actual interview. First nibble in two weeks. I’m excited and thinking positively.
Knock ’em dead, Cynthia! Good luck to you!
Congratulations! I just had a call back, ironically, from CraigsList. She said she would present my resume to the client and get back to me.
Have you tried OfficeTeam? If you put me down as a reference I will split the bounty with you, ha ha.
Cynthia,
On any job board you are probably going to see some positions that look really good but may be something totally different. I would suggest looking at Indeed.com or SimplyHired.com as two other job boards. I use them both, and with a few exceptions have found them to be very good with very little spam or MLM.
TO NANCY B.
One, I never pointed out anyones failings? Where did you come up with that.??? Second, They did not think I was building positive work Relationships – If that was the real problem they should say so, not talk in CRYPTIC. You have painted inaccurate picture. Just Curious, Have you evere worked in corporate AMerica. THe one where you work inside at your desk all day and report to a boss?
More plausible theory is that since General Council (attorney and my boss) was removed from his position and moved out of legal BECAUSE he was imcompetent – he took me down with him. WHY – because he could and he is eveil. It was officially annouced in January. I was terminated January 6.
Second plausible theory is that I was only meant to be there during the busy last quarter, Sept – Dec. I was hired and trained in August. The legal department was re-structured effective Jan 1 and GC was removed, another attorney hired in December, and they were in the hiring process for a new GC.
They had every opportunity to terminate me beforehand if they were UNHAPPY with me or my work. They did not and contued to invest more money in me. I received Health Benefits after 60 days and I recieved a x-mas bonus of $1200, then I was terminated, AFTER the busy quarter was over, with no reason per se, and give a 4 week severance.
Basically I will never know for sure. ANd since I do have 2 plausible theories , I am letting it go. Thank you.
Dear Unlucky,
I apologize if I have offended you. I have been in global process improvement business in several sectors during my 15 year career. My suggestions came from personal experiences with the methods of inefficient people who resort to ‘cryptic’ political means to remove those that point out their failings.
I am sorry that you felt the need to personally attack me. I was only trying to help.
NANCY B.
I did ask for open criticism. I am happy that you made the “relationship” between CRYPTIC and pointing out others failings. I did not point out anyone else’s failings> I just simply saw it and experienced it. AND , I guess the company CEO did too. Sometimes the incompetent get “found out” , In this case , GC was removed out of legal to a completely different, one in which his talents are best applicable.
Unlucky: it reads as though you are still very bitter about being let go. I agree it makes no sense and it’s a painful process to go through. It also reads as thought you believe there is no possible way you could have done anything wrong or done anything better. When your boss spoke cryptically, did you ask for clarification?
For example, in my situation I was laid off without severance. However, the company gave me 4 weeks notice and allowed me to look for work using any vacation time I had left. I could easily sit back and blame them and be bitter. I never had a negative performance review, I had been at the company for 18 months and never received coaching or counseling. My boss spoke cryptically at times and occasionally would withhold information. I saw the writing on the wall and yet I didn’t change anything I was doing. Was I doing anything wrong? No, but I’m sure I could have done something differently. Would that have saved my job? I don’t know, but it might have. My point is that the company isn’t 100% blameworthy. Some of that has to sit on my shoulders. Relationships were important in my company as well. Even though I had great relationships with various people, they were not the key people. Ultimately that became my downfall.
You were told that relationships were key in your company. If you needed clarification, you should have asked. Granted you were only there a short time and most legal positions don’t leave a lot of time for socializing or developing relationships, but it can be done. I really am very sorry that you had that experience, but I think you need to look internally as well. It will help you as you move forward. Maybe you were perfect and your former boss was an ass, but maybe there was something you could have changed. Just my opinion and I mean no disrespect at all.
NANCY B-
UGH – I memorey just passed through my head. When I was sharing a spce in Asst. Gen Council, who was great, He advised me that everything said in his office is CONFIDENTIAL. That was meant most towards company private information (co was privately owned) that I might become privy to. BUt, of course it meant anything said. They should do that when you start there.
By late mid-December, asst GC came into his office muttering ” I sometimes wonder if anyone knows what theyare doing here” Of course I knew that that was not to go out of the office.
Unfortunately, I shall call him MR B came in the office to chat with Ast GC and I , for some DUMB reason, slipped it out in a joking manner. Not cool. I knew it at the moment I said it. Mr. B> do not trust him and is being groomed by CEO – COuld very well told higher ups. And that would not be good. Maybe that did me in, who knows.
NANCY B-
GEEZ- you just went let go of this. YES NAncy B I did ask for clarification. I got no response. notta.
The deal is simply this – I do not know what I did wrong or why I ws terminated. OK. I investigate possibilities that “others” might see that I missed. SO far, your input has not proved fruitful either.
Further, NANCY B – I asked if any of my work had to be redone- NO, Was my job in jeaporadyNO.
MY boss, was simply Incompetent, in many areas of the law that he needed to know. And he ws removed from his position in Jan 1, probably very end of December.
NANCY B. – Did you have a chance to read the “theories” that I posted, as follow-up?
NANCY B. I am not saying I am perfect. No one is.
What I am saying is that it was nover made clear what the problem was. The RElationships was used broad and vauge – and remained a Cryptic speech.
In 10 years as a Paralegal, I have never experienced anything like it. I always knew what was going down and why.
This co. kept the problem in some secret code – or it was part of a general set-up. Secret codes I cannot crack and they chose not to clarify – leaves on at a loss,
Sorry – some of these comments are comments back to Cynthia. SO- the above responses are to Nancy B and CYNTHIA-
Bitter is not the issue – I was searching for an outside thought that might shed light.
THE MAN – not on this board – who posed the theory of bing used for the busy quarter – his theory makes sense. Can’t be proved – just is plausible as a possibilty.
My theory that GC took me down with him – also plausible , not provable.
Just trying to make sense of it all.
Sorry – some of these comments are comments back to Cynthia. SO- the above responses are to Nancy B and CYNTHIA-
Bitter is not the issue – I was searching for an outside thought that might shed light.
THE MAN – not on this board – who posed the theory of bing used for the busy quarter – his theory makes sense. Can’t be proved – just is plausible as a possibilty.
My theory that GC took me down with him – also plausible , not provable.
Just trying to make sense of it all. Have you ever been terminated with a 4 week severance package – and not known what the hey happened.
CYNTHIA –
YES, I did ask for CLARIFICATION on cryptic speech. I got notta.
ANd the CRYPTIC came after 6 weeks. I am still learning the ropes and more ropes in the midst of a very busy face-paced last quarter.
I am still learning who is who, nevermind what do they do. Love it . It rhyms.
IF they will not tell you what the problem is – it cannot be corrected. I am not a mind-reader. Although that is a useful skill workng in legal.
NANCY B.
You made the statement that I pointed out (my boss’s) failings.?
Very curious. Where do you read that.??
Comments are great. Just back them up – so they make sense.